in·se·cu·ri·ty
[in-si-kyoor-i-tee] Show IPA
noun, plural in·se·cu·ri·ties.
1. lack of confidence or assurance; self-doubt: He is plagued by insecurity.
We all know the feeling. The moments we question ourselves, others, and life in general... insecurity comes along in the best of times and in the worst of times but no matter when it creeps in it's toxic, we know it's toxic but yet it feeds on our knowledge of it's toxicity- a vicious cycle.
How do you stop it? How do you counter act the cycle? I don't know the answer to that question but what I do know is this..
You have to build the confidence in yourself first. You have to know who you are and what you are and be comfortable with it, value it yourself. Part of the problem, as I see it, is that we forget that what got us to where we are, being ourselves is what will keep us there and move us forward. So often people get to the place they want to be and then forget this.. and somehow feel the need to then change to fit the height of their new circumstances. Change is good if it is for the right reasons but I don't know that change is the right word exactly, growth may be more appropriate. Growth refers more to enhancing what is already there rather than diminishing what we have and starting over.
It may be impossible to let go of the negativity that plagues us completely and a small amount of insecurity can keep us on our toes and reinforce our true emotions in a situation but limit them to small doses and remember how little we can actually control in our lives, and that in itself is really only contained to what we can control within ourselves, and in our own reactions to external circumstances.
Like many other things, easier said than done, right? At first glance maybe. But once you get it, you really do get it! This part I don't know that I can explain in words. It's more of a feeling. A peace with yourself. A quietness. A confidence. Once you find it, you're not gonna want to let it go!
It may be impossible to let go of the negativity that plagues us completely and a small amount of insecurity can keep us on our toes and reinforce our true emotions in a situation but limit them to small doses and remember how little we can actually control in our lives, and that in itself is really only contained to what we can control within ourselves, and in our own reactions to external circumstances.
Like many other things, easier said than done, right? At first glance maybe. But once you get it, you really do get it! This part I don't know that I can explain in words. It's more of a feeling. A peace with yourself. A quietness. A confidence. Once you find it, you're not gonna want to let it go!
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