insecurity

in·se·cu·ri·ty

   /ˌɪnsɪˈkyʊərɪti/ Show Spelled[in-si-kyoor-i-tee] Show IPA

noun, plural in·se·cu·ri·ties.

1. lack of confidence or assurance; self-doubt: He is plagued by insecurity.

2. the quality or state of being insecure; instability: the insecurity of her financial position.

3. something insecure: the many insecurities of life.

We all know the feeling. The moments we question ourselves, others, and life in general... insecurity comes along in the best of times and in the worst of times but no matter when it creeps in it's toxic, we know it's toxic but yet it feeds on our knowledge of it's toxicity- a vicious cycle.

How do you stop it? How do you counter act the cycle? I don't know the answer to that question but what I do know is this..

You have to build the confidence in yourself first. You have to know who you are and what you are and be comfortable with it, value it yourself. Part of the problem, as I see it, is that we forget that what got us to where we are, being ourselves is what will keep us there and move us forward. So often people get to the place they want to be and then forget this.. and somehow feel the need to then change to fit the height of their new circumstances. Change is good if it is for the right reasons but I don't know that change is the right word exactly, growth may be more appropriate. Growth refers more to enhancing what is already there rather than diminishing what we have and starting over. 

It may be impossible to let go of the negativity that plagues us completely and a small amount of insecurity can keep us on our toes and reinforce our true emotions in a situation but limit them to small doses and remember how little we can actually control in our lives, and that in itself is really only contained to what we can control within ourselves, and in our own reactions to external circumstances. 

Like many other things, easier said than done, right? At first glance maybe. But once you get it, you really do get it! This part I don't know that I can explain in words. It's more of a feeling. A peace with yourself. A quietness. A confidence. Once you find it, you're not gonna want to let it go!

your path

No one knows exactly where life will take us.. in love, in careers, in family, friends, in all our passions.. some will argue that our paths are predetermined. What if this is true? What if something is set in our hearts and minds to set us in motion on that path, in the right direction. at the right time?

If there is a path, it is a windy one. It's full of rights, left, u-turns, speed bumps, fallen trees, the darkness of tunnels, the light of wide open spaces in the morning.. it's stormy, sometimes clear and calm, there's dew and fog, and icy patches... but it's our path, only ours.

Walk, run, sit down and rest a while, skip and jump if you have to but most importantly take-in each inch of it, embrace it.

Everything can and will change in an instant

Everything can and will change in an instant.

There is so little in this life that we really have control over. Plan, organize, execute, strive, reach goals, and in the blink of an eye it can all change, for better or for worse.

In this life we have to get good at change and all that it can encompass. It really is the only thing that is certain. Many people, and I was one of them, sit and wait for that perfect moment to be happy. If this happens then I will feel better, if only I could have this, that would make me happy.

The ocean doesn't wait for the sand to be ready for the tides to change.. the ocean has ebbs and flow and is constantly changing.. the water and the sand accept each other when the timing is right, they have no control over the flow.

When the wind blows through the branches of the trees, what happens? The tree does not resist the motion in the wind, for if it did the branches would break in the struggle. Instead the tree bends with the wind and the air blows through the leaves in harmony.

A bird soars with the air currents. It could fly against it but would exhaust itself and eventually learn that it is a much more peaceful flight to spread it's wings and let the current take it where it is going.

Learn to accept the change. Get adaptable. For life and love are constantly changing and if you are going to find any peace in it all you must find peace in the shifting winds.